Twin sisters Petunia and Pediah have drawn global attention for their unconventional relationship — they share a boyfriend, and according to them, they couldn’t be happier.
The trio, which includes their partner Themba, has been in a throuple for two years, and while the backlash has been intense, the three insist that love, communication, and a few house rules have kept them going strong.
Speaking on the Love Don’t Judge YouTube channel, the South African twins shared how their romantic journey with Themba began while on holiday, describing it as “love at first sight.”
The sisters, who often dress alike and finish each other’s sentences, explained that sharing a partner isn’t new to them — but with Themba, the emotional connection felt different.
“I’ve never dated twins before,” Themba admitted. “It took some time to adjust. The bed is not big enough for three people to start with.”
And that adjustment hasn’t always been smooth.
“Sometimes he doesn’t notice who’s who,” Petunia said, noting that feelings of imbalance do come up. “If I feel like he’s giving my twin sister more attention, I sit him down and tell him, ‘You need to give me attention also.’”
Despite the challenges, Themba said dating the twins is like “having the best of both worlds.”
“They’re not the same person — it’s like sugar and salt,” he said. “They balance each other out in a way. It’s like I stumbled upon a treasure.”
Still, their relationship has sparked harsh criticism from the public. The trio says they’re used to being stared at in public and even kicked out of stores due to their public displays of affection.
“They hate our relationship. Every time we go outside, people stare at us,” Petunia said. “Some call other people just to come look, like they’ve seen something wild.”
Themba added:
“The backlash on social media has been intense. People say all kinds of things — that we just want money, or that it’s wrong. But I was never really worried about what people think.”
The couple says they’ve established ground rules to keep their relationship balanced, including affirmations, fair treatment, and never going to bed angry.
“We fight, we fix, and we continue,” said Pediah. “That’s the rule that’s kept us going.”
And while Themba admits that loving two women is “financially expensive,” he insists it’s worth it.
“It makes me feel like a king being kissed by two women in public,” he said.
Though their relationship may not fit society’s mold, Petunia, Pediah, and Themba say love — and mutual respect — has made them stronger in the face of judgment.
