An Instagram video by lifestyle creator Kylelashay Draper is drawing widespread attention after she urged women not to normalize neglect or broken promises in romantic relationships, declaring, “Don’t settle for the man that forgets you.”
In the viral clip, Draper walks viewers through three birthday experiences across three consecutive years, using each moment to illustrate what she describes as the difference between indifference, empty promises, and genuine intention.
She recalls that in 2023, a former partner forgot her birthday entirely and sent her $50 late in the evening, which she says she returned before cutting off contact. The following year, another partner asked detailed questions about gifts but failed to follow through, prompting her to walk away again.
Her message takes a decisive turn in 2025. Draper says that after mentioning a desire to visit Aspen, Colorado, her then-partner booked the trip within a week. She described returning from the trip to red roses, a charcuterie board, and champagne—gestures she framed not as extravagance, but as evidence of attentiveness and follow-through.
“There’s a man who can, who will, and who actually wants to do it for you,” Draper told viewers, adding that no one should have to beg, plead, or repeatedly ask to be considered.
She encouraged women to wait for consistency, to walk away from disappointment, and to avoid becoming bitter after being let down.
The video has resonated widely on social media, particularly among women discussing boundaries, emotional labor, and the gap between words and actions in modern dating. Many commenters echoed Draper’s view that effort—rather than money—is the clearest indicator of genuine interest.
Relationship analysts say the message reflects a growing emphasis on intentionality and accountability in dating culture, where individuals are increasingly rejecting patterns of neglect and “almost” relationships.
As Draper’s words continue to circulate online, her central message remains clear: settling for less than consistent care is a choice—and walking away can be an act of self-respect.
