Grammy Award–winning singer and actress Jill Scott has opened up about her approach to relationships, revealing that she identifies as a “dominant submissive” during a recent appearance on The Angie Martinez IRL Podcast.
In the conversation, Scott explained that submission, as she defines it, is not about losing independence or identity. Instead, she described it as a conscious choice rooted in trust, emotional safety, and consistency from a partner.
“Like I said, I am a dominant submissive, so I appreciate the time when I actually can submit. Now I’ve learned with grace and age that I cannot submit until I can see that I can submit. It can’t just be words. It can’t be an action. It has to be fair, firm, and consistent,” said.
Scott stated that she can only submit in a relationship after seeing sustained actions, not just words. According to her, trust must be built over time through fairness, firmness, and reliability.
“If your man is fair, firm, and consistent, you will submit,” Angie pressed Scott, to which she responded in the affirmative.
Trust Over Control
When host Angie Martinez asked her to clarify what submission means, Scott pushed back against the idea that it involves disappearing within a relationship. She described it instead as the ability to feel safe enough to relax and find peace, knowing a partner is dependable.
Scott likened that trust to being able to close her eyes while someone else is driving—symbolizing confidence in their judgment and integrity, even when no one else is watching.
Sparking Online Conversation
Clips from the interview have since circulated widely on social media. Many listeners praised Scott for articulating a perspective that reframes submission as strength built on self-awareness and mutual respect.
The singer, who has long spoken about personal growth and emotional wellness, suggested that being a “Dormnant Submissive” is part of her lifelong pursuit of peace.
She notes that healthy partnerships require time, accountability, and consistency to thrive.
