Former Vice President Kamala Harris is offering relationship advice with a metaphor that cuts through the noise of modern dating: know whether you’re in a “Friday night relationship” phase or ready for a “Sunday morning relationship,” and be honest about the difference.
Speaking on the Rich Little Brokegirls podcast posted Tuesday, the 2024 Democratic presidential nominee shared candid guidance for young singles navigating love, timing, and expectations. Harris began with foundational advice that sounded familiar but deliberate. Be kind to yourself, she said, and choose someone kind in return. Look for a partner “who allows you to laugh at yourself and them,” she added, underscoring humor and self-acceptance as cornerstones of healthy connection.
Then the conversation moved into more intimate territory. Harris explained that relationships, like people, exist in seasons.
“There are different phases in your life,” she told host Kimberly Bizu. “And depending on what phase you’re in, maybe you’re going to choose that you want to have that kind of Friday night relationship or you want that Sunday morning relationship.”
The distinction resonated immediately. A Friday night relationship, Harris implied, might be about fun, spontaneity, and companionship in the moment. A Sunday morning relationship suggests stability, shared routines, and long-term commitment. Sometimes those two things overlap. Often, they do not.
“And sometimes you can get both, and sometimes it’s oil and water,” Harris said, laughing. “And that’s OK.”
Her central message was not to judge any phase, but to name it honestly. Harris encouraged listeners to embrace periods of fun just as openly as moments when they crave something deeper. The real risk, she warned, comes from trying to force a relationship into a shape it cannot hold.
“Be honest with yourself about what you’re in, and figure out whether what you’re in is actually what you want,” she said. “And not try and make it something that it’s not because that usually doesn’t work out so well.”
Harris’ advice comes with lived experience. She met her husband, second gentleman Doug Emhoff, on a blind date, and the two married in 2014. Their story, she suggested, unfolded not by rushing phases, but by recognizing when the timing was right.
