In a recent TEDxNokesville appearance that’s gaining attention online, motivational speaker and author Deshauna Barber-Echols delivered a powerful message about the importance of surrounding oneself with people who believe, especially when self-doubt creeps in.
“Sometimes people wonder, why do we doubt ourselves?” Barber-Echols said during her talk. “It’s because you’re surrounded by people that doubt you.” She urged the audience to cut off naysayers “mid-sentence,” explaining that only those who see your potential—even when you can’t—deserve space in your life.
Barber-Echols, who was crowned Miss USA in 2016 and has since become a sought-after speaker and mental wellness advocate, posted a clip of the speech on Instagram along with a reflective caption:
“Some people aren’t meant to speak life into your dreams—because they don’t even believe in their own. I’ve learned to cut doubt off mid-sentence. When things get hard, I turn to my circle of believers—the few who see my potential even when I don’t.
“Your dreams require protection. Choose your circle wisely.”
“Believers Only” When Self-Doubt Sets In
Barber-Echols shared how vital it is to identify the people in one’s life who offer not only emotional support but affirmation. Her message was clear: when imposter syndrome hits, don’t call people who will reinforce your fears. Instead, reach out to those who know your value—even when you temporarily forget it yourself.
“My circle of believers is very small,” she admitted. “I know that when my imposter syndrome begins to set in, I know exactly who to call… make sure you’re calling believers and believers only.”
A Growing Message of Mental Resilience
Barber-Echols’ TEDxNokesville message comes at a time when discussions around mental health, self-worth, and toxic environments are more critical than ever. Her approach blends motivational insight with emotional clarity, offering a tangible roadmap for anyone working through moments of self-doubt or chasing difficult goals.
The clip has already begun to resonate across social platforms, especially among young professionals, creatives, and entrepreneurs who often face discouragement from peers or family.
The Takeaway: Audit Your Circle
Whether you’re launching a business, writing a book, or trying to level up in life, Barber-Echols’ advice is simple but profound: protect your dreams as you would any precious asset.
That begins with choosing who you allow into your mental and emotional space.
Her mantra? “Believers only.”
