A candid Instagram post by Ch-a Mosley, the voice behind the popular @pregnancyoverforty account, is making waves across social media as it touches on one of the most sensitive topics facing modern women: fertility.
In a reel that quickly gained traction, Mosley shared a thought-provoking message and video commentary on the emotional rollercoaster of trying to conceive, explaining that neither age nor assisted reproductive technology guarantees motherhood.
“I’m not against freezing eggs. I’m not against IVF. I just wish everyone understood how nuanced the game of fertility really is,” Mosley wrote in her caption. “You can be young, you can freeze your eggs, you still may struggle or have no baby at all. You can be 46 minding your own business, and look up to find out you are pregnant by total surprise 🤷🏽♀️.”
In the accompanying video, Mosley contrasts her own journey, conceiving naturally at 46 and delivering at 47, with a heartbreaking story of a younger woman who spent $16,000 to freeze 15 eggs, only to find that none survived thawing.
“Five years, I’d had this fake peace of mind,” the woman in the video says.
While Mosley pointed out that she isn’t discouraging fertility preservation or IVF, she made a point to underline the unpredictability of the process.
“Just because you are older doesn’t mean that you have to break your back or your bank to get a baby… and just because you are young is no guarantee,” she said.
The video resonated with thousands of women across generations, opening up a broader conversation about the financial, emotional, and medical realities of fertility treatment.
Many users praised Mosley’s message for offering hope, while also recognizing the stress and uncertainty that come with the journey.
The post closes with practical advice:
“Make sure you sleep well, eat well, exercise, keep your immunity up, pick a good healthy partner, and pray to God that it’s in the cards for you. I am wishing all women success on their fertility journey however you go about getting your baby.”
