A thought-provoking TikTok video is making waves across social media after a user known as @themoguljrs shared her reflections on adulthood, friendships, and how childhood values shape the way people connect—or clash—with others.
In the now-viral clip, the creator argues that navigating adult relationships is far easier and more peaceful when you’re surrounded by people raised with similar values and structure. The short video, which has already sparked intense debate in the comments section, hits on a deeper cultural nerve: many adults are still emotionally stunted children who never received proper guidance.
“The more I get older, I realize that a lot of these adults were really just children with no supervision,” she says in the video. “They were never given the proper care or attention, and now they’re adults we have to roam the earth with.”
Her message, though direct, resonated with thousands of viewers who praised her for saying what many have felt but didn’t know how to express. Others pushed back, arguing that shared trauma or differing experiences can sometimes deepen bonds—not prevent them.
Still, the video’s central idea is gaining traction: friendships often function better when people share similar moral foundations, family dynamics, or household rules from childhood.
“You’ll save yourself so much energy and words by not hanging out with people who weren’t raised like you,” she concludes.
The Exhaustion of Over-Explaining
The creator highlights a key stress point in adult social life: the fatigue of constantly having to explain your boundaries, decisions, and lifestyle to others who don’t “get it.”
From questioning party attendance to clarifying why something feels uncomfortable, she notes that having to justify your every move can be emotionally draining.
“The people who were raised like me—we have a ball. I don’t ever have to over-explain myself,” she says. “But it’s always the people where it’s evident—we weren’t raised the same. Those are the ones I always got to over-explain myself with.”
Her video also touches on a broader discussion around emotional regulation, respect for boundaries, and the lasting psychological impact of childhood supervision, or the lack thereof.
A Relatable Reality Check
Viewers chimed in with their own stories and examples, many of them echoing the sentiment that unhealed inner child behaviors in adults can manifest as boundary-pushing, lack of accountability, or impulsivity.
“I can guarantee they don’t wanna hang with people who had guidelines either 😂😂😂,” someone commented.
Others highlighted that growing up with structure and “restrictions” wasn’t always a bad thing—it often instilled awareness, caution, and empathy, which are all valuable traits in adult life.
As one commenter put it, “It’s not about judging people’s upbringing—it’s about protecting your peace.”
