A 22-year-old woman is going viral for her refreshingly honest take on relationships, explaining why she’s never had a boyfriend and doesn’t see the point in having one anytime soon.
Despite coming from a stable, two-parent household where love and respect were the norm, she says what she’s observed in her peers’ relationships has left her with zero desire to engage in romantic partnerships, especially with men.
“I’ve never had a boyfriend. I’ve gone on like three dates in my entire life… but I grew up in a very loving home where my parents have been married for 24 years,” @doot298 on TikTok shared.
I Haven’t Seen A Single Real Reason To Get A Boyfriend
Raised in what she describes as a supportive family with healthy male role models—including her father, uncles, and cousins—the young woman says she’s never lacked love or protection. But when she looks at what many of her peers have gone through in relationships, she sees emotional turmoil, heartbreak, and mental health struggles.
“I’ve seen girls—starting at 14—get emotionally manipulated. They’re left with emotional and mental damage so deep they need therapy,” she said.
She criticizes what she calls a trend of “playing house” and early motherhood without support, adding that too many women are being pushed into relationships that ultimately derail their futures.
Financial Independence Over Emotional Drain
Her take also addresses financial self-sufficiency, pointing out that she was raised with everything she needed, and now at 22, can provide the same for herself.
This, she says, erases the appeal of dating for security, which she claims is often a reason young women enter relationships with older men:
“A lot of older men don’t even have security or money. And no one I’ve met comes remotely close to someone I’d want to bring home.”
She doesn’t rule out relationships entirely but says that at this stage of her life, she hasn’t seen anyone who meets her standards or adds value to her life.
Sparking a Larger Conversation
Her comments have resonated with many young women who feel overwhelmed by the emotional labor often demanded in relationships. Others have pushed back, arguing that healthy partnerships do exist but require discernment and emotional maturity.
Still, her words reflect a broader shift in mindset among Gen Z women who are questioning societal expectations around relationships, self-worth, and emotional health.
“26, never had a boyfriend bf, only been on a handful of dates. Atp I only want a boyfriend for research 💀 not to actually have and keep one. Ik im the problem in my situation 😂😂,” someone commented.
Choosing Peace Over Pressure
Her message is clear: She is not bitter, broken, or lonely—she’s just protecting her peace.
“It just doesn’t seem appetizing at all,” she says about modern dating. “I haven’t seen a single benefit to having a boyfriend.”
