A viral video by wellness creator Kianna X puts the spotlight on “modern motherhood” and argues that motherhood these days has become exhausting and isolating for many women.
Kianna X attributes the situation to a lack of communal support systems that once helped raise children. That support has disappeared now, she argues.
In an Instagram video, the creator who describes herself as an “Awakening Guide and Healer,” shared blunt remarks about the realities of modern motherhood and the emotional burden many women face while raising children with little support.
In the now-viral Instagram video, Kianna argued that motherhood today often leaves women overwhelmed, isolated, and responsible for nearly every aspect of parenting, even within marriages and long-term relationships.
“That’s why modern motherhood isn’t that enjoyable, because you have no time to yourself,” she said in the video. “The way motherhood is supposed to be ran is, there’s supposed to be a village, okay? A whole entire village.”
Her comments quickly resonated with mothers online who say they often feel emotionally and physically drained while juggling childcare, work, household responsibilities, and relationships with little help from partners or extended family.
Kianna criticized what she described as the collapse of communal parenting structures that historically helped women share the demands of raising children.
“Everybody pitches in to raise the kids,” she said. “These days mothers are stuck raising the kids by themselves.”
She also pointed to frustrations many women experience inside their own households, claiming some fathers contribute financially but leave most parenting and domestic labor to mothers.
“The husband ain’t even helping,” she said. “The husband going to work and coming home and watching her do all the work. Not for me.”
The video was posted alongside promotional material for Kianna’s upcoming “XSCAPE: Women’s Grounding Program,” where she says she plans to teach women about patriarchy, emotional grounding, personal protection, and how to “escape and start over.”
Though some social media users criticized her comments as overly broad or dismissive of involved fathers, many women flooded the comment section agreeing with her description of burnout and invisible labor inside motherhood.
The discussion also reignited broader conversations about the unequal distribution of caregiving responsibilities, the mental health challenges mothers face, and the growing number of women publicly questioning traditional expectations surrounding marriage and parenting.
Mental health advocates and family experts have increasingly pointed to “maternal burnout” as a growing issue, particularly for mothers balancing employment, childcare, emotional labor, and financial pressures without strong support systems.
Kianna’s remarks, while controversial to some, tapped into a sentiment many mothers say is rarely spoken about openly: that motherhood can feel deeply lonely even inside a family structure.
