A young mother on TikTok is sparking conversations about modern motherhood and relationship expectations after a raw, heartfelt video went viral this week.
In the clip, user @toxickate explains why she prefers life as a single mom, stating that peace and autonomy outweigh the pressures of being in a traditional partnership.
“I love being a single mom. I’ve done the whole baby mama, baby daddy thing… I just don’t like it,” she says at the start of the video. “I don’t like having to wake up, feed a man, feed my baby, and I don’t eat till what? Noon?”
The post, which has been viewed and reshared thousands of times, touches on themes many women relate to: emotional labor, exhaustion, self-sacrifice, and the growing desire for peace over partnership.
Two Babies: A Man Baby and My Kid
Throughout the minute-long video, @toxickate pulls no punches. She criticizes her past experiences living with a partner, comparing the emotional load of caring for an adult man to raising a second child.
“Constantly having to do everything… have two babies, a grown-ass man baby and then take care of my kid? Like no. I like just being by myself with my kid,” she continues. “I like not having to give my body or my throat to a man every day. I’m just chilling.”
Her unapologetic tone has resonated with viewers, particularly single mothers who understand the mental and physical toll of caregiving within a strained relationship.
She adds that celibacy and independence have brought her peace and clarity.
I Even Prayed to Have a Baby Without the Man
Perhaps the most surprising part of her confession is when she reveals she intentionally prayed to become a mother without a romantic partner, and feels that prayer was answered.
“I even prayed before I had a kid: God, give me a baby without the man. And it worked out in my favor. I love it,” she said.
Despite the polarizing nature of her comments, the video has sparked a largely supportive response, especially from older women who shared their own experiences of single motherhood and emotional freedom.
Reactions Pour In: ‘This Is Pretty Deep’
One commenter wrote:
“This is pretty deep! Very different perspective.”
Another added a more nuanced view:
“Ladies, I’m an older woman… If you can create a stable two-parent home and make it work, then do it. But if you can’t, it’s better to leave. You can thrive on your own.”
Others applauded her honesty while also expressing hope for romantic companionship.
“I feel what she’s saying and I love it too. But I still want a husband.”
As conversations around mental health, gender roles, and autonomy gain visibility online, videos like @toxickate’s highlight a growing shift: many women are redefining what family, peace, and success look like—on their own terms.
